Healing Wounds of Narcissism… a New Beginning

The Silver Lining is all about finding hope and encouragement in Jesus, so you can be healed, and find the freedom and joy God wants you to have! For the joyful month of April, The Silver Lining theme is: HEALING. After all, Easter is a celebration of new beginnings; new life in Jesus Christ, who suffered and died for our sins, and then miraculously arose on the third day; ALIVE! I will be sharing godly truths, to spread awareness about the kinds of lies, beliefs, and teachings, which can interfere with the healing of our wounds, whether they be; emotional, physical, mental, or spiritual. Some of these wrong life lessons are learned from toxic people; others are learned from our situations and the broken world in which we live.  As we renounce lies we’ve learned, and leave damaging situations and worldly teachings behind us, our wounds will become like old faded scars, barely visible; a story from long ago. We can then go on to live a joyful life, which is pleasing to God. In His timing, we will grow stronger, and more courageous in Christ, and find ourselves more eager, and able, to help others heal too! “But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed” (Isa. 53:5 New International Version).

One serious topic we will continue to explore, is NARCISSISM; which can get in the way of your healing even when you are doing your best to follow Jesus. Why? Because NARCISSISM, also known as EXTREME SELF-CENTEREDNESS; is a SIN, based upon lies the NARCISSIST puts into the victim’s head, and the heads of everyone else with whom the narcissist comes into contact. A narcissist is one who is engaged in self idol worship. If you’ve been the victim of narcissism, you need Jesus more than ever to heal you, and undo all the damaging abuse that was done to you. You need Jesus to show you the TRUTH; for the insidious spirit at work within narcissism needs to be revealed by THE HOLY SPIRIT. At  The Silver Lining, we will learn about the lies and spirits at work in narcissism, and how you can battle them. We will learn how to identify a self-centered, narcissistic personality, and we will focus on the miraculous healing Jesus can do in your life; emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander” (1 Pet. 3:5-6).

If 1 out of 25 people are thought to be so extremely self-centered they are considered to be narcissists, imagine how may people need healing from lies, manipulation, control, slander, confusion, and abuse? And with so many people who do not even know Jesus, imagine how much pain people are carrying around each and every day, and how many open wounds never get healed? All this, because people do not realize how much they need Jesus, and how he IS the silver lining we all so desperately need! He is THE SON shining bright beyond our dark stormy, cloudy trials! The abused need him, and the abusers need him. Everyone’s lives can be made new through God’s Son. Jesus is THE ONE and ONLY answer! Share the truth! Look for the silver lining…there is HOPE on the horizon! “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here” (2 Cor. 5:17)!

Below are some past blog posts and articles to get you started, in gaining a better understanding of the deceitfulness of narcissism. For more posts, and related topics, visit my homepage, and click on the topic: Narcissism. There are also related topics, such as: Spiritual Abuse, Suffering, Deception, Self-Condemnation, and Rejection. You can also go to the tab: Blog Posts, and tag search: narcissism, narcissist, self-centeredness; and any related words of interest. You can also go to the tab: Articles, and do the same search; for different, and more in depth material on the same topic. Visit, and ‘like’ my Facebook page for daily encouraging updates on healing, joy, freedom, and much more! You will also find wise posts filled with truth, by other brothers and sisters in Christ, who are rich in knowledge of the scriptures, and topics related to healing, narcissism, and God’s great grace, mercy, and love! May God bless you, and heal your hurting heart, in Jesus name!




You do not have to remain bleeding and bruised! Jesus came to heal your wounds, and give you brand new life in Him! Say, “YES!” Rejoice!

10 thoughts on “Healing Wounds of Narcissism… a New Beginning

    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Jeanne, yes it’s sad isn’t it? I found it to be pretty accurate when I considered all of my friends and acquaintances, and then considered which people crossing my path have displayed the extreme self-centered characteristics of narcissism. The ratio was surprisingly correct. So thankful for God’s divine protection! 💙


  1. Angela Royse Pelleman says:

    Beckie, thank you for the feedback! I’m glad to know I can help others; and I thank you for sharing my blog posts and articles with those who need it! A couple additional posts, which may be beneficial for readers who want to better understand narcissism; are the posts about wolves in sheep’s clothing. These can help people to recognize the red flags to look for in recognizing fake Christians, false teachers, and narcissistic personalities:



    It’s so refreshing to see that I have sisters in Christ, who absolutely believe that Jesus is THE answer for becoming healed and whole! 💙


  2. Richard Okunade says:

    Hi Angela, thanks for your thoughts on this subject. It is deep and outstanding. I like it when you said, ” The abused need him, the abusers need him”. Truly Jesus is the hope for all. All wounds can be healed wholly in Christ Jesus. God bless you.


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Thank you, Richard! Yes, we have all fallen short of the glory of God, but His arm is not too short to save us! The verse God kept repeating to me over and over is that his will is for NONE to perish! As we grow more mature in Christ, God gives us supernatural ability to see past our own wounds, and even see our abusers through the eyes of Jesus. It is pretty difficult to get to that point, but it is God’s will for us to love everyone through Christ Jesus! Thank you for taking the time to comment, and tell me what part of my post you really liked! I really appreciate it! God bless you, in Jesus’ name! 😊

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  3. theworddetective says:

    When I was a child I can remember my mom sternly telling me after skinning a knee, “Quit picking at the scab. It won’t heal if you don’t stop!” So often we want to do that when we’ve been hurt by words or deeds, knowing we should forgive the transgressor, but we keep “picking” at the wound. So the principles you pointed out in Narcissistic behavior is well placed in all of the healing processes. Thank you for your reminders!


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Thank you, Word Detective, for sharing such an excellent analogy! Bringing up old hurts doesn’t help us to heal; it keeps us stuck in a rut! It does indeed relate to narcissistic injury, where forgiveness never occurred, and simply became a root of bitterness. Best to stick on a Band-Aid, and let God miraculously heal the wound through forgiveness in Jesus! Thank you for coming by to offer us a slice of wisdom with a cup of truth! 😊

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  4. Amanda says:

    My story begins 7 years ago after a divorce from an abusive marriage. I dove head first into a relationship with a man who was a pillar of our little community and a successful Judge and attorney for many years. He was separated from his wife at that time. I thought I had met the man I would spend the rest of my life with. His divorce proceedings lasted 5 long years as I and my children were put through years of humiliation and trauma I felt my spirit and soul being slowly crushed. I ran away from this man several times but each time the humiliation and trauma of being physically, emotionally and psycologically abused kept my self esteem so low that I would accept his empty apologies and go back. Believing things would be different. I gave this man everything I had financially and everything I did not have to give. I loved him mire than me. Only days before he coerced me into signing a prenuptial that he drew up himself and knew I felt humiliated about it and it went against everything I thought a marriage should be, he hurt me. Trapped me in a cheap hotel room and told me what a slut, whore and I remember crawling to the door trying to leave and he pushed me back on the bed. That was only a few days before I signed the prenuptial with tears streaming down my face. We were married 3 days after that day. I have pretended for so long and begged him to make things right. Every Saturday I ask him if we can visit a church because we need Jesus desperately in our marriage. He always says he has to work at the office so it never happens. I pray at night in silence to God and He comforts me. It has been 7 years. There is so much financial abuse in our marriage it’s too much to explain. I was a successful business owner and so much fun to be around. I had friends. I am now alone and suffer in silence. I do not know what to do or how to do this but I know that I am not who God intended me to be. I have considered taking my life more than once from so much pain. I have three of the most precious children. They are all almost grown now but I am saddened because of the horrible example I have set for them. Any advice you have would be so very appreciated. My oldest daughter gets married in a month. I need to get through the wedding in one piece. And I need to learn how to care for myself more than him.


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Amanda, in my two and a half year illness, I was not able to keep up with my blog. I am sorry and I feel sad as I read your story now. I pray God has given you guidance and led you toward a Christian counselor who can help you. Suicide is not the answer, because you are valuable and loved; even when the people in your life aren’t showing you that you are. In abusive situations you must put your health, safety, and sanity first. You were terribly manipulated and abused, and I pray you have removed yourself from the situation or that your family is in counseling and healing. May God bless you and teach you how beautiful you are, in Jesus’ name.


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