Forgiveness is a Chewed Shoe


Or, you can choose not to forgive, and get farther away from God.

Usually, if you’re not a forgiver, you’re not a Christian…

Like, if your dog chewed up your shoe… you still love him!”

~Abigail Pelleman, age 7

These were the words my daughter said to me this week, after she overheard me telling her dad that I had forgiven him, but I still struggled over the fact that he had convinced me to throw away over ten years of teacher files. For our homeschool lesson, I was teaching my daughter a grammar lesson on contractions, wishing for some of the games and activities I’d had 25 years ago as a public school teacher.

Several years back, my files had been accidentally stored in the garage, and little critters had visited the box. They’d left a few marks…and I’m not talking about A+’s! Any elementary through high school teacher will tell you about the important of his or her teacher files! The files are a cumulative collection of our college professors’ teacher tips, copies of activities created and shared by ourselves and other teachers, and copyrighted lessons which grant special permissions to reproduce for education or classroom use. I’d hoped to salvage any folders that were hiding and had escaped, untouched. My husband had insisted I should just throw the entire box away; it would be daunting work to go through it paper by paper. I reluctantly agreed, and later deeply regretted it, feeling I’d made a dreadful mistake. I wondered at times, if I should have checked to make sure. It didn’t matter. The files were long gone.

There were other items my husband had convinced me to throw away, including: a fire place mantel, a hutch, and an old favorite beat up desk which was past its prime. These were things my husband wanted to”check off his list,” while the gears in my mind were considering options to repair, sell, or donate. We each had a different approach for getting rid of items we no longer needed. The differing opinions always eventually came again to the surface, as they do in any marriage where there is an attempt at communication. Sometimes these differences rub over the “sore spot” of an old wound from a long past argument. I was discussing the old wound of regret with my husband, as my daughter worked quietly at kitchen table.

My young daughter, in her godly wisdom, knew exactly how my old wound could heal…through the forgiveness of Jesus Christ. Even if we have forgiven people over past events, sometimes the nick of the old wound brings about feelings of regret. Regret is actually a form of guilt. When regret visits, we need to take a second look, and make sure we have forgiven anyone who has offended us through Jesus Christ. I’d forgiven my husband, which caused me to wonder why I was still struggling with regret. I didn’t realize until much later, that the person who needed my forgiveness most, was actually…me. I renounced the spirit of guilt, in Jesus’ name, for not being able to provide my daughter with those delightful activities from long ago. My prayer worked. And so did my daughter’s. Today, on impulse, I created a brand new lesson. The activity made her laugh so hard, she had tears in her eyes!

During those first days of my teaching career, when I was just beginning to build up that precious box of teacher files, money was budgeted carefully. I’d come home to discover that my puppy had chewed up my brand new leather career shoes and my brand new leather purse. I was not happy! But, as I scooped up the ball of warm, wriggly cocker spaniel, and looked into her chocolate brown eyes, the forgiveness came immediately. The silver lining is that God feels the same way about us! He gathers us into His arms, and covers us with the forgiveness of Christ.

Whether a mistake from the past is real or perceived, we may come face to face with regret. Whether regret comes from old wounds requiring surgery, or just a tiny little paper cut, it all needs to be healed through the power of forgiveness through Jesus Christ. Accepting God’s grace and mercy is the greatest gift towards living a hope-filled life of joy and freedom here on earth. Give your past regrets to Jesus: “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 3:13-14 New International Version).

Summary of 3 biblical truths on forgiveness, backed by scripture, based on the words of a young child filled with The Holy Spirit:

1. “Forgive… or, you can choose not to forgive, and get farther away from God.

“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matt. 6:14-15

2. “Usually, if you’re not a forgiver, you’re not a Christian…”

“Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.” 1 John 4:20 

3. “Like, if your dog chewed up your shoe… you still love him!”

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Romans 8:38-39


11 thoughts on “Forgiveness is a Chewed Shoe

  1. Meg says:

    What a beautiful post! I loved reading it and will love putting it into practice even more! You are a true gift, I wish we could see each other more often!


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Thank you so much for your encouragement! You’ve filled my heart with joy! You are a true gift as well, and I miss you! Let’s get together with our girls right after Thanksgiving; we will be looking forward to it!
      Much love,
      Angela 💙


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      April, thank you so much! God has blessed me with a little girl who understands scripture and shares it in such a joyful, insightful way! She has taught me many things, which proves that God says we are never too young to serve him, and bring people to His Kingdom! God bless you, in Jesus’ name!


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Diana, thank you so much! I would be humbled to be able to walk with you on your journey towards self-forgiveness. I am currently writing a series called: “Being Compassionate to Yourself through Jesus Christ. To do this, we must forgive ourselves! I’m posting a link to the first blog post in a series of five. The second part will be posted before the end of this week. I hope it brings you hope and encouragement in Jesus! Feel free to message me via my Facebook page at with any questions or for prayer! You can also message me here at ‘The Silver Lining.’ You are meant to be free in Christ! Here’s the link: The next post is entitled, “You are Worthy…10 Biblical Truths. God bless you, Diana, in Jesus’ name! Remember, “There is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1) 💙


  2. EmbraceSelah says:

    Angela, This was a great post!! I loved how you brought the ending scriptures together at the end!!

    I am doing a series on forgiveness right now on my blog ( My co-writer and myself just posted 2 posts on forgiveness and regret within the last two weeks! I would love for you to take a peek at that post and the series as well.

    Please keep writing for surely I’m reading!!


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Thank you so much, EmbraceSelah! I appreciate your encouragement! Isn’t it amazing how God speaks to us through other Christians whom God has touched to share similar truths? I look forward to reading your posts and leaving you a reply after my visit! God bless your writing, in Jesus’ name! 💙


    • Angela Royse Pelleman says:

      Thank you, Edith! Children are gifted and so close to Jesus, because there are no lies getting in the way of their pure trust in Him! If only we could remember that God wants us to approach Him as if we were still children! Jesus loves the little children! 😊💙


  3. Rita says:

    Powerful..wonderfully said by your daughter.. I am sharing this post…We are in a crisis of forgiveness right now…all around me…(: People need this.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s